To dream of her lover as a deserter - the fact that in reality you will have to experience the hurt and humiliation. Hide it from yourself - in real life accidentally break the law and subject to prosecution.
To see it or to be it – offense and humiliation.
To see him, or have him - an insult and humiliation.
To see him, or have him - an insult and humiliation.
To see him, or be him - an insult and humiliation.